How Not To Kill Your Husband
Marriage is a wonderful institution, but who wants to live in an institution? ~Groucho Marx
I’m not married and I doubt I’ll ever be married. If I do, I should know what to do thanks to my mom and dad. As of yesterday they’ve been married 40 years. This astonishes me because a) nobody is married 40 flipping years these days, b) when they got married, powder-blue suits with wide lapels were considered cool, and c) they haven’t murdered one another yet.
No, but they have stayed in love and stood by one another through thick and thin for 40 years. Four decades. Nixon was still President of the United States when they got married. Think about that for a second. In an era of disposable marriages and convenient divorces, this is one hell of an accomplishment.
I don’t think it’s always been wine and roses. No marriage is. I’ve been there for a few of the fights and a lot of the heartbreaks. Purely from an observer’s perspective, here’s what I’ve noticed about what it takes to make a marriage last:
* Don’t argue about the stuff not really worth arguing about.
*Never go to bed angry. It isn’t worth it.
*Share the responsibilities equally.
* Accept and embrace your differences.
* Have separate interests and separate friends if you want to.
* Go out to dinner once in a while.
* Say “I love you” on a regular basis…and mean it.
* Handle in-laws the way you would glass.
* Love really is all you need; John Lennon had that right.
Here’s to a lasting love of 40 years. May it stay strong and may no household objects ever be used in anger.
If you’re married, what are your secrets to making love last? If you’re not married, what might you add to the list?